When people talk about long-term relationships, one of the things that are most likely to pop up in a conversation is relationship red flags. Everyone has certain deal-breakers when it comes to being in a relationship, from minor things like different interests, lack of (or too much) sense of humor to more serious concerns such as physical and verbal abuse.
On the other hand, people also have certain indicators that confirm whether their partners are keepers. So before buying those gorgeous wedding rings and saying your “I dos,” ask yourself if you see some green flags in your partner like the ones we’ve listed below.
12 Relationship Green Flags that Let You Know Your Partner Is a Keeper
- You can be yourself and not be conscious about it.
Imagine spending a lifetime with someone so critical. Not a pretty sight right? Having someone who you feel comfortable being yourself with — with absolutely no pretenses — is a rare thing. One who knows and recognizes your flaws but still loves you anyway is a rarity and is definitely one to hold on to.
- They take the time to understand what you’re feeling when you’re arguing.
In an argument, instead of trying to prove they’re right, they choose to be kind and do their best to understand where your pain is coming from with no judgments whatsoever.
- You can talk about almost anything without any reservations knowing you will not get judged.
Similarly, even if you’re having a discussion about something serious or just talking about trivial stuff, you can be honest and speak your mind even what you have to say seems silly. They will still listen to what you have to say and not look down on you.
- You can comfortably and honestly talk about your feelings about your past and present.
Honesty is one of the most basic foundations of trust in any relationship, even if the honest truth is sometimes hard to accept. But anyone who can take you for all you are — past and present included — and still love you unconditionally is a person that doesn’t come by often.
- They are committed to helping you become the best version of yourself as they work on being the best version of themselves.
A partner who accepts you for your flaws is one thing, but one who is committed to helping you become the best person you can be by encouraging you, supporting you, correcting you lovingly, and praying for you is a beautiful thing.
- They are consistently nice to everyone, especially those in the service industry.
Niceness and kindness never go out of style. People who are generally kind and warm to everyone regardless of class, religion, race, or stature know how to respect you and treat you right.
- They have other pursuits and passions.
They are into other things that help them develop and grow as a person. They understand the need to have other pursuits and not just be beside you 24/7.
- They love spending time with you but understand and respect the concept of alone time.
On the flipside, as much as they want to spend most of their free time with you, they also understand the value of me-time. They never take it against you nor take it personally if you wish for some time to be alone or hang out with your friends. They understand that your world does not revolve around them.
- You generally both like the same things.
One of the bases of compatibility is if you’re both interested in the same things. It helps bring couples together and gives them things and activities to do that they enjoy.
- You have the same sense of humor.
Similarly, finding humor and laughing at the same things is a great way of connecting with each other. If you can both share a burst of hearty laughter at the same ideas and things, no matter how shallow they may be, then you’re in great company.
- They know how to handle financial issues without getting toxic.
No matter how much you love each other, it’s not going to put food on the table. Financial management is an important part of a union and if your partner knows how to handle money matters without getting toxic nor stressed about it, you’ve got yourself a keeper.
- They are humble enough to share the credit for their successes and take responsibility for their faults.
Humility is a rare trait nowadays. It’s not just about being meek or soft-spoken but it has to do with the strength of character and the confidence to admit they are at fault and learn how to give credit where it is due. Anyone who displays this kind of character is a gem to have.
There are no perfect relationships but you can do something about it to make your relationship as perfect as it can be. While it’s important to find the right person to spend the rest of your life with, you should also strive to be the right person your partner would want to grow old with. After all, love is a two-way street.