It sounds funny and even outright ridiculous to others. Solo dating? What’s the point? If you’re currently in this frame of mind, then bear with the idea for a little longer. Solo dating has become a thing for a reason, and you might be surprised to find that it can do you a lot of good.
Alone Time is Scary
A lot of people don’t realize how scary it is to be alone until they actually are. This is when they recognize that they’re not comfortable with their own thoughts, and they have no good way to pass the time if they’re not in the company of friends and family. Enduring this discomfort is necessary because it’s how you begin to crack the surface of your identity and find out more about yourself. With no one to tell you what to do or to influence your thoughts, you are finally free to call the shots exactly the way you want to.
As with everything else, however, this can take a lot of practice. It’s especially true if you’ve rarely been alone in public for prolonged periods. Yes, it can feel strange to go out in malls, museums, and amusement parks by yourself, but some people find this exercise necessary. Doing so boosts their confidence and places them in a frame of mind wherein they care more about what they think than what others think. The result? When it comes to dating other people, they become more comfortable voicing their thoughts and saying what they like and don’t like.
If you feel you need this in your dating life, try these solo dating ideas before swipe right.
Get A Massage
Don’t ask anybody (except for Google) about their recommendations and preferences regarding massages. It’s exciting to find out for yourself by no other means than experiencing them. If you live in Utah, drive around until you find something you like. Your adventure might take you to a massage that gives you exactly what you need to de-stress and unwind. Here’s another benefit to trying things for yourself: you have the perfect excuse to splurge on massages weekly to find the best one.
Read a Book in a Cafe
This is an alternative for people who find it awkward to eat out alone. Grab a book that’s been on your to-be-read list for years and find a cafe you’ve never tried before. Decide to read halfway through the book before you leave. Apart from getting over your fear of dining out alone, you’ll be challenged to process ideas without bouncing them off somebody immediately. Yes, it’s healthy to get a different perspective on things, but it’s also important to learn how to establish yourself. Something as simple as reading a book in a cafe alone can accomplish this for you.
Sign Up for Cooking Class
You don’t have to cook for others to want to be good at it. Sign up for a cooking class for the sole purpose of preparing better meals for yourself. It may be daunting at first, especially when you notice that the other students came with their best buddies or romantic partners. Stick with it anyway. Once you’ve completed the course, you’ll enjoy preparing your own meals and discovering your own preferences in food. What’s more, you might even meet someone special in class to share your meals with in the future.
Go to the Beach
Plan a weekend getaway, even if you’re staying overnight at a local resort. With none of your family and friends around, you can try new things like scuba diving without worrying about what they’ll think. And if you end up doing something that’s not so clever? You can laugh at yourself and actually enjoy the moment. There’s nothing quite as liberating as laughing at your own mistakes.
If you’re a bit of a daredevil, being by yourself means you won’t have to consider anybody else’s fear of heights, deep water, or anything sea-related, in general. You can be the adrenaline junkie you always knew yourself to be.
It’s About Loving Yourself First
It might sound cliche, but it’s true. You need to love yourself first if you want to be in a well-balanced romantic relationship. Going on solo dates for a while helps you become comfortable with your own choices and in your identity. You’ll find that, when you do meet your special someone, the experience will be so much more different from before.